Lucky Luc
Level: Smitemaster
Rank Points: 1215
Registered: 08-19-2012
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Re: Bar Stew (+4)
So.
I can't speak for anyone else, of course, but it was absolutely not my intention to personally insult you. Communication is a complicated thing, and the fact that you're losing so many levels of communication online certainly doesn't make it any easier. So I'm sorry if what I said made you feel personally attacked. Looking back at this thread and then at this latest post of yours, I'm a little worried though that you might have taken away the wrong lesson from this whole situation, so I want to reiterate my view of this whole thing.
You've made a mistake. There's just no way around it. You've disclosed information that you didn't have the right to disclose. This was objectively a wrong thing to do. But that's fine. People make mistakes. The important thing is that we learn from them.
Quite a few members of the forum pointed this mistake out to you, including people who are in charge of things. These criticisms were not directed at you as a person, but at the mistake you made. Pointing out mistakes is also completely fine. If you don't know you've made a mistake, how are you supposed to learn from it?
Then you've made pretty much the exact same mistake again. Again, people pointed out to you what you've done wrong. Again, I'm pretty confident that most of us did not intend to attack you on a personal level, but instead point out the mistake so maybe you could learn from it this time. Though I guess some people might have been starting to lose their patience a bit, which I must admit I can also understand.
Anyway, if it was just for the "83%" part of your post, I'd think you actually did learn from it this time. What worries me is the second part: Why do you expect "personal insults [to] pour in"? This time around, you just pointed out information that is publicly available. Something a lot of people have done before you, something that you have done yourself, and it was well received every time. Why would anyone criticize you for that?
The fact that you expect another backlash makes me think that you either don't understand the difference between the two situations, or you think we targeted you personally instead of your actions. The latter one seems more likely to me, so to reiterate: This is absolutely not what I was going for! And I'm pretty sure the same holds true for most of the other comments you've received.
Look, I get it. Receiving backlash on something isn't fun and it's hard to not feel personally attacked by it and easy to get defensive about it instead. But please try to see past this and try to work out if any of the backlash you receive is actually valid criticism. In my experience, this community is one of the least toxic places on the internet and very few people here attack each other in bad faith.
I genuinely believe you're a bright, young person who just hasn't fully worked out the etiquette of online communities yet. I've absolutely been there myself, and I like to think that I've gotten better over the years, though I'm certain I'm far from flawless. All I want is to help you get to that point a bit quicker than I did.
(I did not downvote you and I'm honestly not sure if downvotes without any explanations are really helpful to anyone involved in this situation, but I think you at least deserve an answer to why your latest post might not have been well-received again. Of course, this is only my point of view and I absolutely don't claim to represent the community here, but I hope it's better than nothing)
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